Just to be clear this isnt my thread,its from the Na forums though it was a good read and very informative,heres the original link
http://na.leagueoflegends.com/board/showthread.php?t=1557875
TL;DR: Flip tables of love (╯ﾟヮﾟ)╯︵ ♥♥♥♥
Forewarning: The tips in this guide apply to most normal human beings found in solo queue. If a player has entered your game with the sole intention to ruin it from the start, there is not much you can do. This is not incredibly frequent but when it happens you can't do much besides ride the game out. However most players in solo queue have entered queue to win, they may later act aggressive or start to troll, but most will want to win the game and by following these outlines you should be able to prevent them from acting out in the first place.
Introduction and golden rule: This has been stated many places and in many guides, and I'm going to repeat it here. Do not continue playing if you have lost twice in a row. This more anything is what I consider the key. Unless you are a generally negative person most people start their games out in a good mood. If you have lost twice in a row, or even if one game is particularly bad, just stop playing for an hour or even the day.
However even using this method there will be times when you will go on a losing streak. There were a few days where I would lose twice, and quit, and I repeated this for several days. While my attitude in game was fine because of the span between games I was still slightly depressed at the repeated Elo loss. My only suggestion for this is to, again, make sure your losses are spread out so that you do not bring a negative attitude into the game. Also try and turn it into a motivation to do better so that you can end the losing streak. Never forget that after every losing streak there will come a winning streak. If I am being honest with myself I can easily say every game I've had with a leaver, or troll etc. I have had a game where I did poorly and was still carried, or the enemy had a leaver or a troll.
Just a few months ago I was a very rage filled League of Legends player. Even though certain actions didn't really offend me, I had no issue telling you that you ******* sucked or to tell you that you were horrible. Up until this point I had never received an account infraction so after 2000 games the rules were starting to slide from my mind. However shortly after this I finally received a warning. It wasn't a suspension or anything like that, just a simple email telling me to watch my behavior as it ruins other players experience.
Considering I love this game and would never want to be suspended from it I decided I would work to improve myself and my behavior. The result has not only turned me into someone I hope everyone enjoys playing with, but it has also had a distinct impact on my performance (and others) in my ranked games.
update: For fun, here is a link to the thread I created shortly after receiving my warning and the decision to adjust my attitude. I request that you do not bump it however as it is old and I do not intend to respond to it any further. Feel free to read through it if you wish however. http://na.leagueoflegends.com/board/showthread.php?t=1344471 I like to see myself as one more example where a warning resulted in a change of behavior, and no more tribunal/suspensions.
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About giving up:
I am sure you all have noticed in your games, when someone gives first blood there is usually someone in chat who says "gg". Or if you lose a teamfight "gg". These are mild issues but you still see them, you may also come across those who actually give up, afk, or spam surrender votes nonstop. It is never too late to make a comeback, and the game is not over until your nexus blows up. I have won games where we did not take a single enemy turret until 45 minutes and all we had left was our Nexus. Yes, this is rare, but it happens, and you should never assume the game is over. Talk strategy with your team, tell them that the game isn't over. Offer advice, suggestions, whatever you need to help team morale.
Be the glue that keeps your team together: I would actually just like to start by saying that not every team will want or allow you to carry them, and that sometimes they will refuse to respond to your leadership. Sometimes words will not help them and the best you can do is play until you are winning and they start responding, or lose. My last several wins have all been games where I was solo top, farming and doing extremely well while the rest of the team was doing poorly and becoming negative. They were blaming each other for mistakes and calling each other out on every single death. I finally came down from top and since I was way more fed than their top, teamfights shifted significantly in our favor. I told them to cut the arguing, and that as long as they worked with me, I would give them a victory. We won the game shortly thereafter.
Teams in solo queue typically need a player to rally around. This is almost always the player that is carrying them, but even if you are not carrying them or not doing so hot yourself you can still adopt a leadership position. I tend to tell my teams that I will do everything in my power to carry them, if they will just work with me. Be the person in chat that stops conflicts, encourage the use of the ignore feature if you have to. Unless you are playing with the worst of trolls most players will want to win and agree to your advice. If they can't get along with each other, make them get along with YOU. Become the person they follow and look to for leadership who will bring them a victory.
You are NOT entitled to teammates who win their lanes or are amazing players: And yelling at them will only make things worse. I would just like to mention here that there are times where players are bad, very bad. They may do things that you can't comprehend being that stupid to do, but they do it anyway. However raging at them will do nothing but hasten your defeat, no matter how silly (to you) their performance is, just work with it. Think of a game where you performed poorly. I imagine most players have at least one personal experience with each of these. You have had a game where you performed poorly and your team harassed you, threatened to report you and surrendered. You have also probably have had the game where they told you not to worry about it, offered advice, switched lanes and generally worked with you until you caught back up.
It is a natural response when treated poorly to want to make your team lose. Whether you know it or not, if your team is harassing you. You have probably given up, are feeling extremely poor about yourself, or playing worse than you normally would . The next time you have someone doing poorly in your game, think of it as if it was you in their shoes. It is amazing the turn around I have seen from players who I have talked encouragement to and helped them succeed, I'll give you guys an example.
In most cases the rager is usually one person on your team who is unhappy with another players performance. The player may be doing very poorly (0-5) or even just behind (1-2). For whatever reason the rager has targeted this person and takes every opportunity to spout abuse at them. In one of my games we had a Sona and carry bot lane 2v1 against a Graves. They had a d/c on their team so Graves was alone. Somehow Sona had managed to die to Graves 2v1 several times. Our Lee Sin was furious about this and started spewing harassment at her. All game this Lee Sin kept bringing this up and actually started suiciding/pushing lanes alone because "This sona didn't deserve a win". I kept talking positive to Sona and told her to ignore Lee Sin, and in the end Sona started performing well with some amazing ults and we won the game. To the bitter end Lee Sin never stopped being a rager, but even if you can't convert others, you can still bring your team a victory in most circumstances. After the game Sona thanked me personally for being there for her as the Lee Sin had made her want to quit.
Doing poorly is not a reportable offense: Just a word of note here, Zileas has revealed that the more you report the less "Special" your reports are. So players that are report happy are recognized by the system, also false reporting is caught by the Tribunal and Riot so players are not actually at risk of being banned. However it is still a negative experience to be told you are being reported and that is what this section covers. People have taken the unskilled player and intentionally feeding reports to the max with reporting players. Think of a few recent games, have you not had a player on your team that was decided upon as the scapegoat that "everyone should report". Also how many games have you won where the enemy did not spam in all chat about reporting a player, even if their score wasn't that bad.
Learn this now, intentionally feeding does not apply to doing poorly. I don't care if the player on your team is 0/5 (Which I have been several times, and later came back). They are not "intentionally feeding" unless they say so in chat or are generally suiciding over and over.(Learn the difference between innocently having bad positioning, and dieing intentionally to spite your team) I have also had amazing comeback games where the enemy then spams to report the one player that got caught that lost them the game. I can't help but facepalm when I see this. People make mistakes, and even if two teams were absolute perfect players, one of the teams still has to lose eventually. Long story short, stop threatening to report players, especially when they have done nothing wrong.
I had a game recently where we had a Cho'gath camped by Lee Sin top and fed 5 kills early on. We had several players threaten to report him and several "omg u suck" everytime he died. I told him in chat, I know you are being camped and that it sucks, but just do your best. Play defensive and try to catch up, I will work with you through this game to make sure we win. Prior to this he had stated in chat he was about to give, instead he did his best and started getting kills like crazy. The game rapidly turned around to a victory
Final Words: Even if you can't yet stop yourself from talking negative in chat, just mute yourself. Whether you are ready or knowledgeable enough to be a leader, saying negative things in chat accomplishes absolutely nothing but getting yourself in trouble and ensuring your loss. I have changed my attitude to the point where I am almost never negative in chat. Even at my very worst I will yell at a player for not listening to directions or advice, but I no longer spout obscenities as I used to. You are not required to like the players you play with, but that is the downside of solo queue, and there is no excuse to not do your very best to work with them, even if you must place them on ignore.
If even one player attempts to adjust their behavior as a result of this thread then I am satisfied. Do your own part to make League of Legends a better place to play one person at a time. You can look up my match history to see my own success with these methods. I am currently 9/12 or so today in my ranked games, and the few losses I had were immediately followed by a game where we dominated the enemy. (Note: Normal games are probably experimental or whacky builds with friends)
It is hard to make sure I covered everything especially after a monster post like this, however I will be watching this thread and will personally respond to any questions you may have. I will also update with any further games won or influenced due to having a positive attitude.
Edit: I actually thought I would write a quick thing about calling out MIA's. They are incredibly helpful and should be called out if you remember since it helps keep your team aware. But if you died to a gank and there was no MIA call it is not the other lanes fault for not calling out an MIA. Think of them like presents, be grateful when you receive them but do not expect them and have your own measures to prevent ganking and deaths. *cough* wards *cough*
Thu Jun 07, 2012 5:51 pm by YourMother
Subject: What a positive attitude has done for me and my ranked performance (warning:WOT) 
